When you see it all from a larger angle!!!!

There are times when I have been absolutely angry. So angry that I needed to get the steam off me. I used to go and plunge my head in the wash basin and cool off. Dripping wet, I used to emerge half an hour later, cooled off and finally ready to face an absolutely confused adversary.

Then came the moment when I stomped yelling, threw my hands in disarray(open to a thousand different interpretations ranging from a stong apology to a demeaning insult). Yelling out and then apologising were just common happenings. Just like we look up at the sky or shake our heads in frustation. Except that these 'common happenings' never happened to me!!!!

I was advised, counselled, suggested a hundred different books on controlling my temper. Everything from deep breathing to laughter therapy, why even pranic yoga was not spared. I tried everything. TO NO AVAIL!!!

How can I ever control my anger was my only contemplation. I used to get mad if anyone disturbed this reverie. To get back to what I was thinking was a very difficult job!!! Then I hit upon a very simple solution. I was ravelling in the local metro one day and saw a man pulling at his hat and jumping up and down on a poor bag. Red and choleric in the face, He made a superb caricature.

I burst out laughing seeing this funny image. A grow up man : Tall and neatly dressed. Obviously an executive of some high degree. Throwing his bag down and jumping on it!!! How funny it turned out to be. His anger was indeed an amusement to me.

This got me thinking on a different perspective. I got to thinking how it was when I get angry. I decided to do some different thought process the next time I got angry.

The situation was not too long in the offing. My friend got me worked up. I started to rile at him. When I suddenly removed my soul from the scene, leaving my body and voice there. I saw myself completely engrossed in a fight with him. My body language. And the growing vexation on his face. That was not all. I saw myself being laughed at by everybody in the cubicles around us.

That got me on my right mind. I returned in spirit to my body and smiled. Laughed. And made up. Since then, Whenever something happens, I remove myself physically from the scene and look down upon the scene.

Most often then not, I end up laughing or deciding a better way to deal with the problem.

I feel that this 'Macroscopic approach' can always save your skin. Most of the petty problems that we face everyday or even probelms in corporate or national level can be saved by this approach.

Though not always. There are some cases wherein a minute attention is to be paid to the case at hand.

Otherwise, Have a good time. Think of Archimedes, who thought so much ahead that he said,
" Give me a place to stand and I will move the earth"

Now that is thinking big way..